(I have been trying to write this for a LOOOOOONG time now….its time I stop writing and post )
This a post I started writing while I was still in UK, but finally got myself to complete(?) it around 2-3 months after I reached back home. Even though I had expected that some things might change in this while, I never thought that that my first sentence would itself be invalidated as TOI recently reported that Washington now sees India as a "transforming" economy and longer a "developing" nation…..still here goes….
Coming from developing country like india,with "ing" given the most emphasis , this Anglo experience has been a…hmm….eye opener of sorts. For starters let me make it clear that I would not trade by birth country for anything in the world, but that does not mean that I believe in the "mera bharat mahan" one liner and shun all that un-Indian. Of course India is great, but that greatness does not stem from the fact that other countries are not. Its greatness lies in its rich already existing culture and more importantly its ability to accept the greatness of other cultures and try to imbibe the foreign greatness into its culture much like English, the language, which now must have borrowed/accepted from almost every language in the world.
Like my (former) room mate says, I can safely say that I am a pretty anglicized person, I guess that what 22(-x) years of watching / reading English/American (yep I finally consider myself to be knowledgeable enough to understand the diff) culture would do to you ( x being a convenient parameter that I am unable to quantify with my current memory
) but still reading and watching on the TV is completely different from coming to the place and actually living there as "one among them". I make it sound like some government spies on reconnaissance mission don’t I? Well I guess that pretty much what I am doing in a sense, except for that fact that the information that I gather will be used only by me and for far less destructive purposes I assure you
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Deciding to stay with Little (Na she’s not little, actually she’s on the heavier side
but don’t tell her I said that??? Hehe
just kidding….shes actually very good looking
a "headturner"
) Miss L is probably the best decision that I made after coming to Southampton. I can understand what’s running thru the minds of most people who think like red blooded males. But sorry to break the fantasy
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Even from a purely logical point of view it’s the best decision, why? think of the alternative, I live in Southampton for 3 months, with very less Anglo contact , visiting all the places enjoying the scenery and seeing all things….but at the end of that the learning’s I would have would be substantially less that what I have made now. But staying with her, the discussions I have had with her have in a way expended my views on….to quote Douglas Adams…..“Life, universe and everything else”….. by injecting elements/viewpoints hereto totally alien and unimaginable to a Indian like me. But beyond every shred of logic and reason, the reasons that makes me glad that I choose it is that I got to meet and know a wonderful person like L, who I know will remain a friend for life.
Part of this post is being typed in from a Southampton City council library, which offers free internet and a wide selection of good book I might add….and all that FREE!
. I am not saying that it’s a huge deal but me being a connoisseur of all things free, its will surely stick out as one of the “experiences” during my brief English interlude.
Sru has always said that I am a person how always thinks about big things in life and in the process miss out the little things, Probably she’s true about the old me but I think over time, her repeated nagging has had some effect as some of the most clear tings in my memory are mostly small, silly incidents. There was this one time that I was trying to get into a Subway at Portswood for the first time. Maybe I was thinking about something else, but I was going on pushing a door which has PULL written right on top and after a while the person standing behind me wonder where this buffoon is from stepped up and pulled the door
It was a really embarrassing moment which took the full fun out of the 2.49 pounds I spend on a chicken tirekeani(?) sandwich.
Also initially when I moved in, the room I got was just cleaned and the bed sheets and another thing cloth, let call it the “X” was lying on the bed. Now X was a two layer cloth which had dimensions similar to that of a bed sheet. Closed inspection would have revealed to me the similarity the of its structure with a pillow cover and I would probably have guessed out the use. But lets say I was not very observant. So taking X as X( a unknown thing) I thought that’s its just a strange type of bed sheet and put it on top. I thought to me obelix style “These English are crazy…tap…tap…tap”. For first few says, my roommate and landlord Miss L saw it, but was confused as to whether or not it would be polite to ask me. But later she mustered up enough courage (?) to asked me why I was using X in the way I was using it. Turns our X was something that was called duvet and I was being a real dufus
Moving on to other things, another strange (?) thing I noticed is the freezing culture. Probably its not right on my part to expand a habit I saw with a person (L) to the macroscopic level and generalize it to the whole of English populous , but if I remember correctly, Miss L said that its pretty common there. Kitchen is probably the place where the probability of finding me in house is least (expect for some snack raids) but still I feel here we don’t have dedicated freezers to freeze cooked food for one month or so. (Correction some so my INDIAN female colleagues (Great Miss J and gang) confirmed that they make their poor parents cook and pack food for them for the whole month and freeze it and thaw it as required and eat (ugh!)
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The English seem to have no qualms about distributing free pamphlets. No this is not your usual “Free* Computer Class” pamphlets that your get daily morning courtesy your paper-walla, but really good ones, not limited to 3 colors and with “information” you can use and collecting them was a temporary hobby I took up there. Anywhere I went, some info or the other was available as free pamphlets and I would jump to get a pamphlet on football stadium with the same vigor as for one on 19th century art and literature.
An aspect(s) of English life that I have seen poked at time and time again by “American” sitcoms – the extremes – the courteousness of English people and the extreme hooliganism on the other side. And the funny thing is the hooligans are really nice people too ???. (Probably hooligan is a wrong word but I am sure that my English brethren will forgive me for my limited vocabulary). My experience on my Everton Trip are testament to that.
One thing that I regret not having got a taste of is the Pub scene in UK. My dear Miss L had invited me a lot of time, but I declined conjuring up a variety of imaginative reasons which in truth were just a cover up for my insecurity. My insecurity of being judged as an Indian (even though that I knew would never happen since L’s friends were the most friendly people I could have hope for (and more)) and also the fear of conducting a experiment whose results can be very unpredictable (me drinking alcohol). But the party we had at our place for L’s friends was as close as it got
To conclude, I feel that I have had a lot of learning’s, experiences etc which would take me ages to put here and a lot of them were tacit and cannot be put on paper, but the it suffices to say that the infusion of a totally different culture has affected my mindset (for the better I hope), expanded my views and has left a footprint that will survive till my death (you if believe in afterlife then too)
And if you ask me to name the two best things that happened while I was there, I would say with out a blink my Everton Visit and getting a friend like Miss L